Recommended Reading

A. For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors The Porn Trap (2008), Wendy Maltz & Larry Maltz. Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001), David L. Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin & Joseph Moriarity. Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (2004). Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan.   In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001), Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin. Hazelden, Center City, MN. What's the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation (2008), Jill C. Manning. Shadow Mountain Press, Salt Lake City, UT. Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage.  Wendy L. Watson. Deseret Book. Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul. John Eldredge.  A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery, (1993), Patrick Carnes. Don't Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction, (1991), Patrick Carnes.   B. For Spouses After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful (1994), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishers. NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity (2004), Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli.  Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity (1999), Emily M. Brown.  Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors (2002 & 2005), Rory C. Reid & Dan Gray.  Mental Health Publications, Salt Lake City, UT. How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To (2004), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishing, New York, NY. Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal (2001), Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik. Sourcebooks Inc., Naperville, Illinois.  Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars (1999), Marsha Means. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI.  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself.  Melody Beattie, Hazelden.   The Dance of Intimacy. Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY.   The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner.  Harper & Row, New York, NY. The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women's Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner.  Harper & Row, New York, NY.     C. For Couples Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Marshall B. Rosenberg. Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart, William J. Doherty, Guilford Press. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. John M. Gottman. Three Rivers Press. Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage.  Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book. Rock-Solid Relationships: Strengthening Personal Relationships With Wisdom from the Scriptures, Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book. Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality (1999), Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser. Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery (2005), Patrick Carnes. Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again. Michele Weiner-Davis. The Peacegiver: How Christ Offers to Heal our Hearts and Homes, James L. Ferrell, Deseret Book.     D. For Parents Pornified:How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families.  Pamela Paul. Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference. Frank York & Jan LaRue. Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture that's Gone Stark Raving Mad. Rebecca Hagelin. How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child's Sexual Character.  Brenna & Stan Jones. Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age.  Edited by Melissa R. Cox & the Medical Institute for Sexual Health. Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character.  Pepper Schwartz & Dominic Cappello. Parenting with Love & Logic.  Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay. Parenting Teens with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay.

Publications

Reid, R. C.,  Carpenter, B. N., Draper, E. D., & Manning, J. C. (in press). Exploring psychopathology, personality traits, and marital distress among women married to hypersexual men. Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy. Manning, J. C. & Watson, W. L. (2008). Common Factors in Christian Women’s Preferences for Support When Dealing with a Spouse’s Sexually Addictive or Compulsive Behaviors: The C.A.V.E.D. theory. Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity, 15:3, 233-249. Manning, J. C. (2008). What’s the Big Deal about Pornography?: A Guide for the Internet Generation. Shadow Mountain Press, Salt Lake City, UT. Manning, J. C. & Watson, W. L. (2007). A Qualitative Study of the Supports Christian Women Find Most Beneficial When Dealing with a Spouse's Sexually Addictive or Compulsive Behaviors', Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity, 14:4, 337 – 357. Manning, J. C., & Watson, W. L. (2007). A Qualitative Study of the Supports Women Find Most Beneficial When Dealing with a Spouse’s Sexually Addictive or Compulsive Behaviors: Insights for Pastoral Counselors and Clergy. Pastoral Psychology, 56, pp. 31-43. Manning, J. C. (2007). The Effects of Pornography on Marriage: Dealing with a Spouse's Sexually Addictive and Compulsive Behaviors.  In Loveless, A. S. & Holman, T. B. (Eds.) The Family in the New Millennium: World Voices Supporting the "Natural Clan".  Westport, CT: Praeger.     Manning, J. C. (2007).  Living above Suspicion Contracts: Re-establishing Trust in the Wake of a Pornography Problem.  The AMCAP Journal, Spring volume, pp. 39-47.   Manning, J. C. (2006).  The Impact of Internet Pornography on Marriage and the Family: A Review of the Research. Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment and Prevention, 13, 131-165.  Manning, J. C. (2005). Pornography's Impact on Marriage & the Family. Testimony of Jill C. Manning before the Subcommittee on the Constitution, Civil Rights and Property Rights Commitee on Judiciary, United States Senate, November 9, 2005:http://www.heritage.org/Research/Family/tst111405a.cfm Manning, J. C. & Reid, R. C. (2005).  How Ecclesiastical Leaders Can Help the Spouse of Someone with a Pornography Problem.  In Chamberlain, M., Gray, D. D. & Reid, R. C. (Eds.) Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders.  Salt Lake City, UT: Deseret Books. Reid, R. C., Gray, D. D. & Manning, J. C. (2005).  How Ecclesiastical Leaders Can Help Those with Pornography Problems.  In Chamberlain, M., Gray, D. D. & Reid, R. C. (Eds.) Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders.  Salt Lake City, UT: Deseret Books. Reid, R. C. & Manning, J. C. (2005).  Overcoming the Destructive Influence of Pornography on Marriage.  In Hart, C. H., Newell, L. D., Walton, E. and Dollahite, D. C. (Eds). Helping and Healing Our Families: Principles and Practices Inspired by “The Family: A Proclamation to the World.” Deseret Book, Salt Lake City, UT. Manning, J. C. & Parry, A. (2004). A Room of Their Own: Dealing with the hostile youth in therapy. In Paré, D.A. and Larner, G. (Eds.) Collaborative Practice in Psychology and Therapy. Binghampton, NY: Haworth Press.

Helpful Websites & Organizations

http://www.lifestarnetwork.org/   http://www.obscenitycrimes.org/    http://www.communitiesfordecency.org    http://www.cp80.org/   http://www.familyfacts.org/    http://www.nationallawcenter.org/   http://citizensap.org/   http://www.enough.org/   http://www.missingkids.com/   http://www.faithfulandtrueministries.com/about.php   http://www.sa.org/   http://www.cosa-recovery.org/   http://www.recovering-couples.org/   http://www.sexaa.org/   http://www.ncsac.org/   http://www.cybersexualaddiction.com/   http://www.sexhelp.com/